The Growing Epidemic No One Talks About (But Should)

To interrupt means 'to stop or hinder by breaking in'. Breaking into someone else's home is a crime. Breaking into someone else's stream of thought should be as well...

Interrupting is epidemic at the moment. It has become common practice - on the verge of being accepted even. But, you see, interrupting is impatient, belittling and, frankly, it is incredibly rude. If I interrupt you it means that I think that what I have to say is more important than what you appear to be about to say.

It also means that you are not listening. If you are ready to interrupt with a full-fledged thought, then you weren't really listening to what was being said. Take the time to actually listen to what is being said to you. You might find it more interesting than you expected.

Now here's the trick - pause before you respond. Pausing can work miracles - it allows the person talking to add more information and insights. And, it shows incredible consideration for another. Don't be afraid of a few moments of silence; it shows that you are considering what has just been said. Pausing is reflective and thoughtful. By pausing, you can make the person you are listening to feel very important.

All great relationships are formed on a foundation of sincere listening. Observe those newly in love - they hang on every word the other says. Giving someone else your full attention is intoxicating. Interrupting is a violation.

Give the gift of the pause...and watch your relationships flourish.

the communication guru